There are plenty of images and memes circulating social media circuits depicting a girl wearing a Nintendo shirt or holding an X-box controller. The text proceeds to insult the girl for “pretending” to be a nerd, usually calling her a whore who just found a video game controller, pair of glasses, gamer t-shirt, etc.
Why people support it: People seem to think that because she is pretty (which truly is in the eye of the beholder anyway), she is insulting “real female gamers” for posing with an article of gaming merchandise. The apparent reason for feeling insulted is because they assume she is faking her affinity of video games. The faking is assumed because she does not fulfill the image of a gamer girl, which is confusing enough to begin with.
Why I disagree: The gaming community has created an image of what a gamer girl/nerdy girl should look like, and this image is supposed to combat what a non-gaming girl looks like. This anti-image always struck me as more insulting than comforting considering I never fit into either category… and neither do any of my personal female friends who play video games. For some reason, we are not supposed to look like “unobtainable” women who spend time on their appearance, but instead we must look like more approachable women to insecure gamer boys. I am sorry, but I do not wear oversized hoodies, I do clean my face and hair, I actually like wearing makeup, I spend a lot of time on my hair and over all appearance, and I personally do not like the popular black rimmed, thin framed glasses. This is the antithesis of the image illustrated to us as a “real female gamer”, but to me that image just looks like a woman with a different style.
This stereotype also plays into the idea that a woman who spends her time on her appearance is less intelligent than one who cares less to, when really it is all a matter of preference.
- This whole gamer girl image fiasco is hilarious considering the image of sexiness constantly portrayed to us by female characters in video games. You’re practically saying that it’s okay for you to spend countless hours playing a “sexy” female character, be it your FemShep, Lara Croft, Ada Wong, Jill Valentine, or MMO avatar, but the second a woman who looks similar to any of them in real life comes along… well, they’re just not fit to participate in your reindeer games. Whores.
- If you weren’t intimidated by a female with a different image style and/or personality than you, you’d probably try less to alienate them from your beloved gaming circles. Really, must you be such a queen bee that you have to accuse other women as being “fake gamers” or even “sluts” when you meet her in passing? Did her interaction with your guy friends make you think you would get less attention, so you have to accuse her of being an attention whore because she took a shower this week? Seriously, that’s how ridiculous you are being.
- Men, what standard are you trying to force on us? “Be hot, but not too hot”? How many times will you complain that there are “no women on the internet”, then shame them when they do come around? Furthermore, why do you act like your sexual attraction or even lack thereof toward women you meet on video games actually even matters? Is that supposed to be another double standard we have to pass? Maybe we’re here to play games and make a few gamer buddies along the way. That does NOT mean we are here to try to entice you.
- While there may be girls out there who truly do not like gaming or spend any time doing it, but claim they do for attention, the constant accusation concerning that possibility is more detrimental than anything they are doing. Soon enough her boyfriend would find out she doesn’t want to play Battlefield 3 with him and that’s his problem. There are plenty of girls accused of being a fake because their physical appearance or personality does not meet the aforementioned requirements of a “true” girl gamer.
Altogether, I think you should be less concerned with our female gaming mates’ bathing habits and sexual activities. It’s just plain creepy. Embrace your female gaming peers, preferably without anything poking their thighs.